For most women being pregnant and having a baby is something that brings happiness and an experience they will never forget. There are exceptions. There may be reasons why women, or their partners, are unable to take care of their own baby. They think there is no other option than to give up their baby.
In the Netherlands there are various options to give birth in secrecy and then (immediately) give up your baby to the authorities. Your family and friends will never need to know if you don’t want them to.
Organizations that make this possible are de Raad voor de Kinderbescherming (the Council for Child Protection) (www.kinderbescherming.nl), the Fiom, SIRIZ and Bureau Jeugdzorg (Youth Care Office). They can help you organise a safe delivery and the giving up of your baby. They will also make sure that when your child grows up and wants to know who his or her biological mother (and/or father) is, they can find out.
If you want more information on this, please call us. You can do this anonymously. Everything we discuss will stay confidential.
There are women for whichever reason, who are afraid to contact the organizations mentioned above. These women are often desperate and distraught. They don’t know what to do. Pregnant, anxious and desperate, there is a high probability they will make the wrong decision. A decision they will probably regret and be in sorrow for many years.
If you feel there is no other option than to give up your baby illegally (by leaving him or her somewhere unprotected in an environment not suitable for a baby, or even worse, dispose of your baby), know there is an option you can choose to leave your baby in a special room.
This room is warm and safe and your baby will be well taken care of. If medical care is needed we will provide it immediately.
You will find a crib and a chair in this room. Take the time to recover your breath. You can peacefully say farewell before parting from your baby.
If you would like to speak to the Beschermde Wieg-mother just press the button. This”mother” who looks after the room, will be there as soon as possible. You don’t have to tell us your name or any other personal details, if you prefer not to. We will respect that.
There is an envelope in the room which you can read for information about the effects of childbirth for you and your baby, the need for medical assistance for you and where to get it. Even when you choose to stay anonymous. It can be of great importance that you get medical assistance and/or professional assistance in any field whatsoever. You will also find more information on these subjects.
You will find a jigsaw puzzle in the envelope, containing 2 pieces. One piece you take with you, the other piece you will leave behind in the room with your baby. This way you will know that when the pieces fit together, you are mother and child. This is of great importance, because you can reverse your decision to leave your baby. If you do decide to reverse your decision, it is important that you do so within 6 months after giving birth.
Although there is an option to not leave any personal details, please be aware of the fact that it can be of great importance for your child to get in contact with you when he or she grows up. For that reason and because of the right to know who your descendents are, the Beschermde Wieg Foundation finds it of great importance that you leave your personal details with us, but ultimately it is your decision whether to do so or not. If you do decide to leave your personal details behind, these details will be kept in a safe and will only be given to your child at his or her own request when she or he are 16 years old.
When you leave, lay your baby in the bed. Your baby will be safe. When closing the door, the door will automatically lock to provide your baby with a safe place.
Be aware of the fact that the Beschermde Wieg Foundation is there for you and your baby and you can always be confident that everything you tell us will kept a secret.
The number you can reach us at all times to tell us your story is 0800-6005
Are you interested in opening a Beschermde Wieg room yourself? That's possible!
We are always looking out for enthusiastic persons who want to support our initiative and engage in opening more Beschermde Wieg rooms in the Netherlands. A Beschermde Wieg room in every big city is our goal, so we can attain to as many pregnant and receintly laboured woman in need as possible. We can surely use your commitment and help, of course by a donation but also in realising a room yourself.
Do you think you will be able to meet with the points below, please contact us for more information.
The Beschermde Wieg Foundation is very pleased to cooperate with various organizations and private initiatives in order to promote our initiative in a professional manner
Beschermde Wieg foundation will not get any subsidy, but that’s no reason not to go ahead. A desperate mother and her child have nothing while we're waiting for financial security.
Every donation is valuable for us, small or large.